Not sure therapy is helping? Questions for a progress review
CareOps editorial team · · 3 min read
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Read our full editorial standards →If you are unsure whether therapy is helping, bring specific expectations and difficulties to your therapist rather than deciding that you are doing it wrong. You may need a clearer shared goal, a review of the approach or a way to notice changes outside the session.
At a glance
- Feeling heard and making progress toward a daily-life goal are related but different things to review.
- Put the original goal, a recent example, changes and continuing difficulties side by side for discussion.
- Difficulties with the process belong in the conversation too. Discuss the plan, approach and other support options.
Revisit what you hoped would change
A goal such as 'never feel anxious' can make changes hard to recognise. Describe a scene such as attending a meeting or stopping preparation before it consumes the whole evening. Discuss whether you had expected all difficult feelings to disappear, and what a meaningful change would actually look like.
| Review area | Fictional note |
|---|---|
| Hoped-for change | I wanted to ask one prepared question even while anxious. |
| What has changed | I avoid fewer meetings, but speaking still feels difficult. |
| What remains difficult | Replaying the meeting still takes over most of my evening. |
| Question to raise | Could we review whether to focus next on avoidance or the replay afterward? |
Ways to begin the review
NIMH recommends asking about goals, how progress will be assessed and what happens if improvement is unclear. You can acknowledge what helps while explaining what is missing: for example, feeling heard during a session while remaining uncertain about what to try afterward.
- 'Could we review whether the original goal still fits?'
- 'This recent situation was still difficult. How does it fit with our plan?'
- 'Could you explain why we are using this exercise and how it relates to my concern?'
- 'Could we agree what changes we will review and when?'
Include the working relationship
Bring up a specific moment if an interpretation felt unlike your experience or if asking questions has been difficult. You can explain that the meaning you intended was different. Notice whether there is room to clarify the misunderstanding and discuss how you work together.
Discuss adjusting the approach or seeking another professional opinion when appropriate. If you take medication, review changes with the prescribing clinician separately from satisfaction with therapy. If your condition worsens substantially or safety is a concern, seek real-world help before the next planned review.
Prepare a brief review note
Use the appointment preparation note for a recent example and questions. Include changes in behaviour and circumstances alongside any questionnaire scores. The therapy goal examples can help you describe what you want to work on next.
Frequently asked questions
- How many sessions should it take?
- There is no single session count for everyone. Discuss the expected course and review points for your particular goals and approach, then examine what has changed.
- Can I say I am unsure it is helping?
- Questions about the process are appropriate topics for a review. Describe your expectations and recent experience without needing to formulate a judgement about the therapist.
Sources
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